先生good recently you know I've been relaxed with oh yeah it's Sunday yesterday so
自分Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So actually, I couldn't connect. I couldn't connect to you. So you
先生like I took a day off at work and yeah pretty much okay how about you what have
先生you been doing lately why is that I haven't seen you here in a
先生Oh
自分are always connect to other person. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So last week, I was
自分fun because I went to cinema. I went to cinema to watch movie, to watch movie. Yeah. Oh,
先生Oh what do you watch
自分so you know Conan? Do you know Conan? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So I went to, yeah. Yeah. I went
先生Huh, yeah detective Conan, of course
自分to cinema to watch Conan. So Conan is the, usually is it to doing, doing, sorry, is it
自分to holding, holding movie, holding theater, holding theater near, near this month, near
先生Yeah
自分this month. So every, yeah. So April to, April to May, April to May, every year. Yeah. Yeah.
先生Yeah
先生Yeah from
先生Every year, right? I see I see. So, um, was it the live action or cartoon action? Yeah cartoon
自分Yeah. Cartoon action. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. Yeah. It's like anime. Yeah. Yeah.
先生It was cartoon right like anime don't you
先生Oh
先生Okay, anyway, thank you so much for having me again Shaw let's start another lesson, okay
自分Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Correct. Yeah. Okay. So, so difficult question. I think definitely
先生Okay, so now we have um five minutes discussion happiness gratitude, correct
先生Interesting, let's talk about this. Let's have number one Shaw Shaw. Uh, what is happiness for you?
自分spending, spending time with my, with wife and friends and family and family. Yeah. So
自分it is my, my happiness. And also I think gaining, gaining a lot of experience, gaining knowledge
自分and skills. It is also my happiness. If people don't grow, don't grow more than now, people
自分don't feel so engagement. It is not happy. It is not happiness. So gaining experience
自分and having time with friends or family and wife. So it is my happiness. Yeah.
先生Wow, that's great. I see. Can you tell me more? Why do you
自分Yeah. Okay. It is so simple, having time, having time with them. So it is so, so grat
先生consider
先生Spending time with family and friends makes you happy Shaw
自分and amazing, amazing. So the reason is very simple. It is so grat, grat to meet them, to meet them.
先生I
自分Yeah. And we can, we can share on lifestyle, on time, our, our job, our job. So, and sometimes
自分people can share our happiness, our happiness. Yeah. So we can receive others happiness between
先生don't know how to do this.
自分talking. Yeah. Yeah. That's it. Oh, so I think if people don't have, don't have happiness, people
先生Okay, I see, I see. That's it? That's it, mostly. Okay, thank you so much. Next, um,
先生why is happiness important in our lives, Shaw?
先生Uh-huh, uh-huh.
自分couldn't keep high motivation and high energy, high energy. Yeah. So definitely people feel so
自分sad. People will become stressful, will become stressful. Yeah. Yeah. I think that's it. Yeah.
先生Sure, definitely.
先生That's it, right? People who are going to become sad. I think I agree with you on that
自分Yeah. Yeah. Okay. I think definitely air, definitely air, water. So yeah, it's important
先生one. Now next, um, can you compare happiness to something very important like air or water
先生or something like that, Shaw?
先生Uh-huh, yeah.
自分things compared to happiness, but I think earning, earning, earning money is definitely also important
自分things. Yeah. People don't have, don't have enough money. People couldn't do, couldn't do a lot of
先生Uh-huh.
自分things, couldn't do every stuff, every stuff. Yeah. So earning money is also important things.
先生True, true, definitely. Okay, I see. Okay, that's it. Thank you so much. Next, um, is
自分Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's it.
自分Yeah.
先生happiness a state of your mind? Do we only think that, oh, I should be happy and then
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah, exactly. Yeah. So, I think I always think about that. So, in my case, I usually
先生you're going to be happy, so like that. When we say in our mind, like, oh, Shaw, you have
先生to be happy today because today is, what, um, I don't know, you just be happy. Can we
先生say that to our mind, Shaw?
自分think about how can I keep high motivation? How can I have happiness every day? So, if people
先生Okay.
自分don't think about this, people couldn't manage to have happiness. So, in my case, if I have a lot of
自分tasks, if I have a lot of tasks, even if I have a lot of tasks, I must spend time with my wife.
先生Yeah.
自分Yeah. So, yeah, I'm thinking about happiness every day. Yeah.
先生I see, I see. So, uh, you said that you've, uh, what you were trying to say is happiness
先生is, um, uh, it's a matter of choice, right? Like if you, if you choose to be happy, then
自分Yeah. Yeah.
自分Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Yeah.
先生you could be happy. If you choose to be sad, then you could be sad. Is that what you mean,
先生Shaw? Okay. I'm going to give you an example. I'm going to give you a scenario. What if
自分Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
先生you were driving your car, Shaw, and then suddenly someone bumped into your car and
先生your car is being crashed and you're, you're, you're, you're injured or something like that.
自分So, Yumi, when this time, I can feel happiness. I can feel happiness. Oh, I don't think so. I
先生So can you still be happy on that one, Shaw?
先生Would this time happen? Yes. Yes. Yeah, I think so. Okay.
自分don't think so. Yeah. So, it is a bad situation. It is a bad situation. So, I can't think I have
自分happiness. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, in my case, definitely, a lot of
先生So you cannot think, right? So, like, very challenging for you to command yourself, like,
先生That's good. Thank you so much, Shaw. Okay. Next, what makes you feel happy, Shaw?
先生Money.
自分situation, a lot of situation when I have feeling having happiness. So, for example, spending time
先生A lot of situations.
先生Uh huh. Uh huh.
自分with my wife and drinking with business partner, drinking with business partner, and also doing
先生Uh huh. Uh huh.
自分working with my co-founder, and definitely learning English on native account with you. Yeah.
先生Yeah. Uh huh. Yeah. Uh huh.
自分Yeah. So, I love it. I love it. Learning English is so nice. Yeah. So, I can gain happiness this time.
先生You love it.
自分Yeah. Oh, so, difficult question. I think going to trip with family. So, when I was a student, I
先生Okay. I see. I see. Okay. But how about here? Um, what was the happiest time of your childhood,
先生Shaw?
自分went to trip. I went to trip in vacation with my family. So, it was so fun. It was so fun. So, for
先生Okay. Uh huh.
自分example, going to Okinawa. So, that was amazing beach and so nice place. So, there are a lot of
自分activity doing many sports. Yeah. So, that was the best happiness in my life. Yeah.
先生Okay.
先生Okay. I see. I see. Now, would you like to go back to that time, Shaw?
自分Yeah. Oh, yeah. I don't think so. Yeah. I don't think so. Yeah. Because, definitely, it was so nice
先生You don't think so? Why not?
自分things. But, for the future, we can also get more happiness for the future. So, if I don't think
先生Yeah.
自分about past things, past time, if I, sorry, I always thinking about future. Thinking about future. So,
自分people can become good person more than now. Get better. Get better. Yeah.
先生I see. Okay. Okay. But anyway, um, yeah, for sure. Thank you so much.
自分Yeah. Oh, so, yeah, a lot of situation. Yeah. So, for example, so, very simple situation having lunch
先生Next, what are the happiest moments in your life now? Now, Shaw?
自分with my wife, having dinner with wife, and watching TV. And sometimes, when I feel, when I felt to grow
先生Okay. Aw. Yeah.
自分more and more, more and more, when I am learning English on native camp, yeah, it is definitely,
先生Uh huh. Uh huh. Okay.
自分I felt happiness. I felt happiness. I feel happiness. Yeah. That's it. Yeah.
先生Okay. I see. Okay. I see. But, you know, um, do you think these moments, like watching TV, eating with your wife, uh, will still make you happy in the future, Shaw?
自分Yeah. Yeah.
先生Uh huh. I get, um, yeah. So, you've mentioned that something that makes you happy now is eating with your wife and then watching TV or whatever, relaxing.
自分Ah, so, sorry, could you explain more, please? Yeah.
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, definitely, I think so, yeah. So, I, so, we,
先生So how about in the future, uh, let's just say, um, 20 or, um, 30 years from now, Shaw, do you think that watching TV and then, um, relax, uh, eating together with your wife will make you still happy in the future?
自分we can, we can stay, we can stay, we can stay happiness on this time. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, exactly.
先生Okay. We could still be happy, right? Okay.
自分So, because the reason is very simple. So, having relax is so important things to have happiness,
先生Yeah. Uh huh. Yeah. Uh huh. Okay.
自分to have happiness, even if people don't have enough time, especially every day working time,
自分a lot of tasks, but people must have having time with wife, with friends for the future. Yeah.
自分Yeah.
先生Nice. For the future, right? Okay. I see. I see. That's great. Next, how can you be happy again when you are sad, Shaw?
自分Oh, okay. So, in my case, I go, I go to, I will go to gym or running, doing exercise,
自分and sometimes having a lot of food, a lot of foods. Yeah. Yeah. So, sometimes drinking alcohol,
先生Uh huh. Uh huh. Okay. Checking out the phone.
自分yeah, with this partner or my friends, my friends. It is my, it is my taking care of
自分that. Yeah. Yeah.
先生Okay. So that's how you, you do it, like happiness, like working out and all that stuff. All right. So who, uh, who or what helps you most when you feel sad? Aside from the, the one that you've mentioned, do you also, are there things that makes you feel relieved from sadness, Shaw?
自分So, you mean, who helps me to become happiness? Yeah. Oh, so, definitely my wife, my wife. Yeah.
先生Yes. To become happy.
自分Yeah, my wife is so nice person, so nice person. People helps, helps me every, every day. So,
先生Uh huh. Yeah. Uh huh. Uh huh. Yeah.
自分my wife's doing, my wife's doing, doing housework, housework. Yeah. So, even if I don't have enough
自分time, she, she couldn't say, she couldn't say, complaining, complaining. Yeah, yeah, so nice.
先生Uh huh. She doesn't, she doesn't complain. Doesn't complain. Wow. Your wife must be very nice woman. She's kind. Okay.
自分Yeah, she, she didn't, she couldn't, so she did, she, she doesn't, she doesn't, she doesn't,
自分yeah, she doesn't complain. Yeah.
自分Yeah, yeah, exactly. Yeah. How about you? So, who helps you to become happiness?
先生Myself. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. But what I'm trying to say, um, I mean, my family, my, you know, my, my siblings, uh, what my mom and my dad. Okay. So, um, I don't, I'm not that really, how do you call this? Um, needy person, you know, I can be happy with my, with myself. Like, you know, if I do things that, you know, I don't need happiness from anyone.
自分Yeah. Oh, yeah. Yeah.
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah. Yeah. Wow, so nice.
先生Um, first off I can be happy with myself, Shaw. Um, it's just, yeah. Yeah. It's just that it's just that like, um, seeing someone that I love also happy, that makes me also happy. So I didn't need to require, you know, I didn't need to travel. Uh, I need to travel, but like, you know, that thing is a plus or something like that. If that thing's happened, that's okay. If it's not, then it's okay still. Something like that.
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah.
先生So I try to live, you know, the secret of being happy is to become simple, Shaw. So if you are contented, if you are simple with your life, then you could be happy. Don't expect too much, uh, in life. Yeah. Because if you do that, you're going to end up being miserable, being sad, or you know what I mean? Like, yeah.
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah, yeah.
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah. Wow, so nice, wonderful. Yeah. So, it is so, it is so hard to, to have happiness
先生Thank you so much.
先生I know. True, true. Yeah, true, true. That's very, exactly. It's very challenging, to be honest. Yeah. I know, right?
自分from self, from self. So, many people, yeah, couldn't, yeah, couldn't that. Yeah. Yeah,
自分exactly. So nice, so nice. Yeah. So, how, how, how do you, how, sorry, way,
先生How can I gain happiness in myself? Um, uh, I set boundaries or say, like, um, I, for example, um, what? For example, I'll be taking an examination, Shaw, or something like that.
自分how can you get, how can you gain happiness on self? Yeah.
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah.
先生So I do not expect to get a hundred percent score or something like that. So like, I don't expect if like, oh, um, if I'm going to get a hundred percent, I'm going to be happy. So I'll try to set on my mind that, um, I'm, I'm not, not really smart person.
自分Yeah.
先生I might get 80, 80 score or 75 or whatsoever. So, you know, I try to make, I try to think less of it so that if, if the result will come, if the result will, um, uh, if I, I, I receive the result like 80 only or 75, I'm not going to be hurt. Instead, I'm going to be grateful of, oh yeah, this is what I expect or something like that.
自分Oh, wow. Yeah.
自分Mm.
自分Yeah.
先生So I don't expect beyond more if I, if I get, you know, let's just say 90% of the score. So I'm going to be more happy if I get 80. So I'm still happy because that's what I also expect because that is the thing that I can only do. So like, you know, my power can only exceed 80%. So, you know, I'm not going to be hurting myself because like, that's the only thing that I expected. So yeah, that's it.
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah.
自分Wow, so nice. Yeah, I appreciate your, your crew, your crew. Yeah. So, yeah, yeah, yeah. Wow.
先生Thank you so much. Yeah. Okay. Well, anyway, let's move on. Right now. Next, um, does having money and being rich mean you're happy, Shaw?
自分Oh, so, only, I don't think so, so, I don't think so, people have, people have a lot of money,
自分only money, only, people have only money who don't have happiness, don't have happiness. Yeah. So,
先生Uh-huh. Okay. That's happiness.
自分so, some people who are rich man couldn't enough time with family, with family time. Yeah. So,
先生Okay.
自分they find my previous boss, previous boss don't have enough time to spend, to spend with family,
先生Yeah.
先生Okay.
自分with family. But, yeah, but he have a lot of money. He have plenty of money. Yeah. So, but,
先生With family.
先生Yeah.
先生Yeah.
先生Don't have happiness.
自分but I think he's, he looks so, don't feel so happiness. Sorry, don't have happiness. Yeah,
自分don't have happiness. Yeah, yeah.
先生True. Yeah. Yeah. Again, happiness is just, just like what you've mentioned earlier, happiness is just a matter of choice, whether you have lots of money, but you know, you live in a miserable life. You don't have your family with you. You don't have someone that you love. It's still empty in your heart, right? Though you have lots of money, you can travel whatever you like, but you know, somehow it's still lacking, right?
自分Yeah. Yeah.
自分Yeah, exactly. People have empty, yeah, in mind. Yeah. Yeah.
先生Right.
先生You're become empty. True. True. I actually like your answer, Shaw. That's actually true. Okay. Now here, people's, uh, how can people stay happy, Shaw?
自分Oh, so, I think people have, people have time that thinking about oneself, thinking about
自分oneself. Yeah. And taking about mindset, mindset. So, some people don't enough time to think about
先生Okay.
自分self, to think about self. Yeah. So, people must think about oneself. If people don't have enough
先生Okay. Yeah.
自分time, people have a lot of tasks, but people must think about oneself at least once a week, once a
先生Yeah.
自分week. Yeah. That's it. I think so. Yeah. And people going to gym or exercising, doing exercise,
先生Uh-huh.
先生Yeah.
自分doing exercise. Yeah. Yeah, that's it. Yeah. Yeah.
先生Okay. I see. I see. So that's it, right? That's how it works. Okay. Now here, is happiness important to one's health, Shaw?
自分Yeah, I think so. Yeah. It is an important thing for health. Yeah. Because
先生Okay. Okay.
自分if people don't feel happiness, don't feel happiness, people will become stressful.
先生Yeah.
先生Uh-huh.
自分Yeah. Different people have stressful and don't feel sad, don't feel sad. Yeah. So,
先生Uh-huh.
先生It's just a matter of mindset. Okay. That's true. That's true. Definitely. Yeah, for sure. Next, um, are there ways to help measure one's happiness, Shaw? Can we tell that, um, this person is, um, uh, how do you call this? Um, very happy person or something like that?
自分it will become bad health, bad health. Yeah. Especially physical, especially mindset, mindset.
自分Yeah. Yeah.
自分Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So, Yumi, who is the happiness person around me?
先生Um, no. Can we, can we determine, for example, like, I think Shaw is a very positive person. I think Shaw is very happy person. This is because blah, blah, blah. Can we say that one to someone?
自分Yeah.
自分Yeah.
自分Oh, sorry. Could you? Yeah.
先生Yeah. Uh, yeah. It's okay. It's okay. It's okay. So what I'm trying to say is that can we say to someone that, oh, I think, um, I can feel that Sai is very positive person because he tells very positive things or something like that or something like that.
自分Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I can do that. I can do that. Yeah. Yeah. So,
先生So can we tell, can we, uh, can we tell that if a person, uh, you know, by just looking at them, can we say that, oh, this person is sad, this person is, uh, happy, blah, blah, blah.
先生We can do that.
自分uh, some people have face differently. It is a sad face, sad face. Yeah. So, and people have,
先生Yeah. Uh-huh.
先生For face. Uh-huh.
自分we can, uh, we can, uh, judgment. We can judge. We can judge. People have high motivation or don't
先生And they'd be okay with it.
先生We don't have to. Thank you so much, Shaw. Have a good day. Bye.
自分have enough motivation. Yeah. We can judge from a face, from face. Yeah. And behavior,
自分and behavior. Yeah. Oh, we don't have time. Well, thank you so much. Have a nice day, Sai.
先生Bye.